Month: November 2015

Top Five: First Dates in Auckland

1.The Late Night Drink – XuXu Dumpling Bar Britomart

To be honest, I haven’t eaten the dumplings here but this little spot tucked away in Britomart makes for the perfect late night cocktail date. Be warned, they are strong! The intimate courtyard is cosy enough to smell (and judge) his cologne, but spacious enough to keep the chat private.



2. The First ‘Actual’ Meeting – Elliot St Stables

I’m not one for Tinder or social media pickups but I know this is running hot lately. I couldn’t imagine going out for dinner somewhere intimate if you haven’t even met the guy. What if the chat falls flat and you are sitting there in silence? I’m pretty good and thinking on my toes and coming up with something to keep the conversation going, but this isn’t the case for everyone. One thing you can always count on is some quality people watching!

Elliot Stables is so bustling with interesting people and fashion that the conversation could not possibly fall flat!



3. Golf with the Friend of a Friend

Now I wouldn’t say go for a round but definitely hit up the driving range. I think this is ideal for a first date with someone that you may already know. Maybe a friend of a friend. Yes, this can be embarrassing as you swing yourself round in circles missing every ball but hey, it will create a few lols and if you are like me it will get you out of your heels and show him a more relaxed side of you.

Golf Warehouse Driving Range Takapuna is pretty low key and relaxed.



4. Get out of your suburb!

I rarely leave the Ponsonby bubble. Its home to me and I am slightly embarrassed to admit that I actually get anxious venturing into other areas of Auckland! I don’t know … it has everything and the best of everything, all in walking distance to my home. BUT on a first date its actually quite fun to explore a new area. I’d quite like to check out Madam Woo in Takapuna.



5. A Date in the Sun

Not ready for the one on one chat? Then celebrate the return of the Victoria Park Markets. If you are both from Auckland than this will bring back some memories! Check out the local produce, fashion and live music and pop into one of the cafes for a quick coffee.



Any more first date ideas???

Holly xx


To game or not to game?


The one thing that scares me about dating is all this ‘game playing’ that seems to go on. I’m scared because I don’t know what these games are, how the hell to play them or even how to tell if I’m being played? I’m pretty straight up in all aspects of my life, so I don’t think I’m up for making any changes for this dating world.

I feel like you should know if someone is interested enough in you within the first few weeks. For it to be worth even getting to a kiss then there needs to be that mystery, somewhat of a fascinating, a need to know more. It doesn’t need to be forever or even lead to a relationship but there needs to be that spark of curiosity and intrigue. When games come into play, they just mess with all the fun stuff, the butterflies and the excitement.

It’s obviously not said for everybody, but I feel like if you are being played or you can’t figure them out, then they’re just not that into you. Pick up that red flag, put your sneakers on and jog the f#$k outta there. To be honest, it’s likely they have a few options on the go, they are keeping you there as back up or they are still stuck up on an ex!

I do wonder though, on that odd occasion, if love can be lost within these games. If people don’t know how to just be themselves and let their feelings be honest, and in the midst of all that confusion something that could have been, turns a wrong corner and walks away.

If I like you, I like you. If I want to see you, Ill ask you out. If I want to talk to you, Ill call and if I want to kiss you, then I definitely want to know more.

I got no time for games, only “fun” ones …


Me ^^ ….


Not me ^^ …


Tehehehehe ^^^

Holly xxx